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[cora]

Tasha is my Mum's Cocker Spaniel...she's 14 years old and is sister to my Riker who went to sleep on 22 November last year. Tasha has been quite poorly for the past fortnight and is in a lot of pain.

I've just had a very emotional call from my Mum who's just taken Tash to the vets...he's treated her for the pain, but they've made the decision that if Tash doesn't show signs of improvement by 6pm today, then it will be time for her to go to sleep.

My Mum is in bits, as you can imagine. I've promised her I'll be with her.

I just have a worry, you see, it's all so very raw for me after losing Riker, there's not a day that goes by without tears for the loss of Riker, even still - and I want to be strong for my Mum.

I know this is premature, but I'd like to get it sorted, I wonder if anyone can help with advice - when Riker went to sleep, I was able to bring him home and bury him in the garden, under his favourite lilac tree, where he's now covered in tulips. I don't think Mum will be able to do this. What are the options? I know Mum won't want to leave Tash at the vets.

This is so dreadful - Tasha is my Mum's moon and stars, her absolute everything...all I can do is have my arms wrapped round her....

Healing thoughts if you can muster them would be most gratefully received...Tash is a very special dog...:053:

[terri]

aw sweetheart..there is never a right time..
just want to send you hugs..and healing hugs for your mum and Tasha.....
you'll be in my thoughts..
and healing thoughts speeding all your ways..at this very sad and difficult time..xxx

[cora]

Thank you so much Terri xx

[Meerkat]

loads of love and hugs to you and your mum - this is not an easy time for either of you and I am sure it will bring back all the memories and feelings of last Nov - i really hope Tash pulls thro this and you are worrying for nothing

Loads of healing thoughts and loads of love to you, your mum and the rest of the family x x x

REMEMBER what ever happens we are here for you x x x

[terri]

you really don't have to thnak me sweetheart..
i know what your are going through..and what may be ahead of you..( hope not)..
in answer to your question about what to do if the worst case..
your vet will be the best to advise you..
and it depends on what you want to do..eg..burial or creamtion..
a burial you can bring the dog back home....
if creamtion..vets have a practice to follow..and norammly vets will handle this side for you..
i'm going back 7 years ago with the loss of my jarvis..we had creamtion..but i went for an individual service..( you do pay more for this)..i could also be present..then ashes are sent back to your vets and are collected from their for you to bring back home..
its a personal choice...and how a fmaily is going to cope with seeing the not nice side of this...
not sure i've been much help on that one..but your vets can sort this out if the need arises..
stay strong for you mum..even though its going to be heartbreaking all round..
my thoughts are with you all...xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

[cora]

Thank you Caroline, you are very kind xx

[cora]

Sorry Terri - I cross posted there - thanks for that advice, you have been a help. I know that when (if) it happens, neither my Mum or I will be able to think straight. I might have a word with the vet before hand if it comes to it today. x

[terri]

Sorry Terri - I cross posted there - thanks for that advice, you have been a help. I know that when (if) it happens, neither my Mum or I will be able to think straight. I might have a word with the vet before hand if it comes to it today. x

thats what the vets are there for..they will be able to help and offer advise..yes thats a good thing to think in advance and try and speak to the vet in charge at present..so you will not have to cope with any added worry..if that makes sence..
vets are trained to deal with situatuions like this..as they are removed from feelings more than the families involved..whilst upsetting for any vet..they are removed from it..
hopefully you will have many more weeks /months ahead before any decision like this needs to me made..

were are all here for you..and you'll remian in my thoughts..will check back in here later........
and huge, huge gentel hugs for you all...xxxxxxxxxx

[terri]

http://www.appcc.org.uk
for information on uk indivdual pet creamtions/burials..
your rights ect..
hope you won't need it...but you may find it helpful in the future..

[wendy]

I am so sorry to read this Cora
my thoughts are with you and your mum

[Freckle Face]

I have no advice, but my thoughts are with you and your mum.

[cora]

Thank you for your thoughts Wendy and FF x Thanks also for the link terri.

Just had a long chat with Mum - Tash is still sleeping, her tummy's spasming still which is what's causing the pain. We've spoken about what we might do after, and she's decided she'd like to bury tash after all. So, when/if it happens.

It's all so sad, I know so many people go through this - I just wish, with all my heart - that my Mum didn't have to go through this - what with watching my Nan slip away through Alzheimers and all the other sadness she has been through over recent years...but Tasha has had the most wonderful life - and boy she is loved :o) Keeping fingers toes and everything else crossed that when she wakes up she'll be able to eat something (has been 4 days now).

[Penelope]

My heart really goes out to you... having lost my little Buffy just over 2 weeks ago, I know how awful it is but I always live by the rule "better a day too soon than a day too late!" I am sure you and your mum will do what is best for her precious girl. At least you have each other too - will be thinking of you today.
Lots of love

[Theresa]

Thinking of you just now pet xx

[cora]

Thank you all so much for your thoughts.

Mum's beautiful Tasha has gone http://cockersonline.co.uk/discuss/Smileys/classic/cry.gif She was in so much pain, poor poor beautiful baby. At about 6:30pm, she looked at Mum, and Mum knew it was time.

She is here with us, Mum will have her cremated. I am going to stay with Mum until it's not so raw. I wish I knew what I could do to take her pain away. http://cockersonline.co.uk/discuss/Smileys/classic/cry.gif

Mum has asked me to thank you all so much for your messages. Thank you http://cockersonline.co.uk/discuss/Smileys/classic/bigarmhug.gif xx

[wendy]

Cora I am so sorry for your loss
Please tell your mum we are thinking about her

[lisalh]

Aw Cora - am so sorry for for the loss your Mum (and you) are feeling.Will be thinking of you both xx

[AngieBaby!]

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My heart is aching for you and your Mum, it's so unfair when we have to say goodbye to our precious babies. Night night sleep tight beautiful Tasha, may the Angel's take you under their wings and keep you safe from now on.

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[terri]

Cora sweetheart...there are no words to express how sorry i am to hear your news, my heart is aching for you...:062:
all i will say is you have done the one selfless act of love..and hope you will take some comfort knowing Tasha will not be in pain now..
it is heartbreaking to loose our beloved pets..they are all such a huge part of our lives..
i'm so ,so sorry for your mum's loss...:062:
loadsa love speeding your way and your mums and your family...
you will be in my thoughts...:075::075::075::075:
and run free at the bridge precious Tasha...:051::078:

[MightyMouth]

This is a very sad piece of news Cora. It is just heartbreaking when you have to make that decision but every single one of us makes it for the right reasons and there is comfort to be had in that knowledge. Tell your Mum that I am heartsick for her as I know so well how she feels. I said to Fluffy when she lost Sir Jasper that people can help you occasionally but you have to travel this road alone for the most part. There is a day when it gets better and God alone knows when it will be but hopefully not too far away. Give her a huge hug from me and also for yourself too because you must be equally in pain. xxxxxxx

[Meerkat]

I'm so sorry and even more sorry I couldn't get back on line last night

love and hugs for you both and remember we are always here for you and others that have lost their pets too x x x

[Freckle Face]

I am so sorry for your loss.

You and your mum will be in my thoughts today xxx

[Theresa]

I am so sorry for you loss but relieved Tasha is not in any more pain. Run free sweetheart knowing you are very loved and will be missed dreadfully xxxx

[Spangles]

Cora I'm so sorry that Tasha has gone and I'm thinking of you and your Mum and sending hugs to you both. I know what it is like when your beloved furbaby looks at you and you know that they are asking to be free of the pain that they are suffering. It will be so raw at the moment but in time the pain does ease but not overnight - you and your Mum will always have a corner of your hearts that is Tasha shaped.

God bless Tasha - safe journey to the Bridge where all our Bridge babies will be waiting for you xxxxxxxxx

[Tanya]

I'm so very sorry to read this Cora :062: My heart goes out to you and your mum for your sad loss :075::075:

RIP Tasha :077:

[Penelope]

Run free at the bridge Tasha - Buffy needs someone older and wiser to look out for her cos she was only a youngster - maybe you can be her friend!
My thoughts are with you and your family at this difficult time.
Love and hugs.

xxx

[cora]

Thank you all so very much for your kind words. It really has been a terrible terrible 24 hours. Tasha is now at the Chapel of Rest...it is a most beautiful place, with blankets and flowers and soft pillows...Mum is in an awful place right now...but we're going to work through it together.

Your words have been a comfort to my Mum and I'm so grateful for that. Thank you XXXX

[Meerkat]

Love, thoughts and hugs still with you and your mum from here - wish I could wave a magic wand and make the pain go away

it was a year last weekend we lost Braan, so know what you are all going thro

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[Sandra]

Haven't been around all weekend so only just catching up with everyones threads. I was so very sorry to read about Tasha, how dreadfully sad for you and your mum Cora. It sounds like she had a fantastic life, and I'm pleased your mum found the strength to help her to RB before her suffering became unbearable - what a brave lady.:062::078: Sending hugs to you both. x

[wendy]

Thinking of you and your mum today
wrapping you both in a big VC hugg

[cora]

Thank you everybody - you are so kind - Mum's going down to be with the horses at the stables this morning (she lives on a farm - not hers...but she has access to everywhere) then she said she's going to feed the birds and then go to work.

My heart is literally breaking for her - we don't have much family at all, in fact, it's really just me, Mum and Nan - and Nan is so very poorly, and Mum's watching her slip away from her too - I just wish wish wish I could do something to take all this pain away for my lovely Mum.

Tasha was also my link to Riker...watching her go through it - was like seeing Riker go through it all again, and I haven't yet gotten over the pain of losing him, not even a tiny bit.

It's very sad - but am going to get Mum through it xxx

[MightyMouth]

Course you are. That is what caring daughters do. :075: Please give Mum my warmest wishes Cora xx

[Pixie]

Oh no Cora I'm so sorry to hear the sad news.. Big hugs to bth you and your mum at this sad time, my heart goes out to the two of you

xxx

[cora]

Thank you Pixie - I think it's going to be a long rocky road for Mum - but we're structuring her time so she's busy...I've already got the weekend planned with her! And of course, work is keeping her going...:)

[Fluffy]

All the love in the world from us chick xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx