changing connors surname?

[fran]

any one know how i can change connors surname legally. we still have my ex husbands name despite us splitting up three years ago i haven't changed back as i wanted me and connor to be the same. now he has no contact with his father plus with the house move and my new job i want to change back and now would be a good time-but i don't want connor to be different.

do i need his fathers permission or need a solicitor or anything? :)

[Michelle]

You can change it by deed poll at a solicitors, in fact you can change your name to anything you want (the mind boggles) :lol:
not sure if you need the fathers permission tho.

Have a look at this.....http://www.deedpoll.org.uk/

According to this http://www.ukdps.co.uk/CanIChangeMyChil ... l#Section5 (http://www.ukdps.co.uk/CanIChangeMyChildrensNames.html#Section5) you dont need the fathers permission if his whereabouts are unknown, otherwise you may have to contact him for permission!

[fran]

thnak you- i have been searching and couldn't find any of that. :030: i don't mind contacting him as i know he won't reply. he had no birthday or christmas cards and he pays no maintanece. if he can't be arsed to see him he won't make the effort to make a fuss (i hope)!!!!

[Beth]

Part of me really wants to do this for me and Indie... But i don't know what i'd change it to. :oops: Indigo is one of those names that doesn't go with many surnames... So's Bethany for that matter. :roll:

Martyn wouldn't give his permission either. :061: (he told me when i saw him that he won't even give me a divorce but that's another story :roll: )

Hope it goes smoothly for you. :)

[michelle123]

Sorry to make light of the situation but this reminds me of a Friends episode where Phoebe changed her name to Princess Vonsoila Banana Hammack (sp)

vair vair funny.

[Michelle]

Lol...Mr Crap Bag :lol: :lol:

[fran]

:lol:

[Theresa]

I don't know if it different in England but when I was little my mum remarried and we had no contact with my dad so she just changed my name and I started school with my new surname. No one ever questioned it. ;)

[fran]

all done :045: i had to write a letter of consent for connor as he has no contact with his father and doesn't pay maintenance but all changed :045: i'm so excited :045:

[Beth]

So did you do it by deed poll? or just change it with the school?

[MightyMouth]

I think the only time you need consent is when someone else (a new partner) wants to adopt a child whose original fathers name is on the birth certificate. Something like that :mrgreen:

[Alpha]

Oh well done Fran, I am really pleased for you.

[fran]

i done it by deed poll. you need the fathers consent if he is in contact with the child or pays maintenance or sends birthday chritmas thing!!!?? which he doesn't do, so i had to say all that. have told connors teacher this afternoon so know i have to tell him tonight, i'm dreading it. we had a chat about his father last night and he has such a good memory. i wish i'd mentioned it last night but as i didn't know how long it would take i didn't. wish me luck :|

[fran]

sorry about my spelling!!

[MightyMouth]

Must be different in Scotland then. My friend at work remarried. She had 2 teenage daughters from her previous marriage and then a baby by her new hubby Fraser. The teenage girls never saw their Dad but had to go to court to explain why they wanted Fraser to adopt them. Sadly, weeks after the adoption went ahead and when the baby Megan was just a few months old, Karen collapsed and died with a heart attack. She was only in her early 30's :cry:

I am sure all will go well telling your boy. They are remarkable resilient things kids :mrgreen:

[fran]

:o :062: how awful. i have also put my mother and father legal guardians if anything happened to me. my mother has been going on about it for ages so that's done too.

he took it really well and i explain that his surname was daddys and because he doesn't see him anymore that we are all going to have our new name. it helps that my brothers three kids all have our name now too. so he was happy about that, but then asked what was Jacks name before he was surname?!!! it 's all so confusing for him :062: anyway all done now and i am really relieved :D

[michelle123]

Well done Fran, I'm sure it is confusing for him, but kids adapt. I'm sure he will have much delight going into school with a new name tomorrow ;)

[Beth]

i done it by deed poll. you need the fathers consent if he is in contact with the child or pays maintenance or sends birthday chritmas thing!!!?? which he doesn't do, so i had to say all that. have told connors teacher this afternoon so know i have to tell him tonight, i'm dreading it. we had a chat about his father last night and he has such a good memory. i wish i'd mentioned it last night but as i didn't know how long it would take i didn't. wish me luck :|

I'd need martyn's consent then, he's (supposedly) paying child benefit. Maybe i could get in touch with them, explain what i want to do and see if that's reason enough to stop him paying. :030: i think it' only £5 a week or something, so it won't make any difference not getting it. If they decide it's not a good enough reason then i'll get money taken off of my benefit. :060:

[fran]

i done it by deed poll. you need the fathers consent if he is in contact with the child or pays maintenance or sends birthday chritmas thing!!!?? which he doesn't do, so i had to say all that. have told connors teacher this afternoon so know i have to tell him tonight, i'm dreading it. we had a chat about his father last night and he has such a good memory. i wish i'd mentioned it last night but as i didn't know how long it would take i didn't. wish me luck :|

I'd need martyn's consent then, he's (supposedly) paying child benefit. Maybe i could get in touch with them, explain what i want to do and see if that's reason enough to stop him paying. :030: i think it' only £5 a week or something, so it won't make any difference not getting it. If they decide it's not a good enough reason then i'll get money taken off of my benefit. :060:

he wouldn't give you permision would he?? i didn't know about my ex but i wouldn't have wanted to ask his 'permission' to do something when he has no part in his life. it's worth ringing the deed poll people as they were really helpful. it was all done in a week.

spent all day changing all my things over today. i'm working tomorrow. got two days supply in a behaviour class of 8 boys :11: i'm dreading it. start my new job monday can't wait. i can go by my new name. yipp :045: ee

[Beth]

i done it by deed poll. you need the fathers consent if he is in contact with the child or pays maintenance or sends birthday chritmas thing!!!?? which he doesn't do, so i had to say all that. have told connors teacher this afternoon so know i have to tell him tonight, i'm dreading it. we had a chat about his father last night and he has such a good memory. i wish i'd mentioned it last night but as i didn't know how long it would take i didn't. wish me luck :|

I'd need martyn's consent then, he's (supposedly) paying child benefit. Maybe i could get in touch with them, explain what i want to do and see if that's reason enough to stop him paying. :030: i think it' only £5 a week or something, so it won't make any difference not getting it. If they decide it's not a good enough reason then i'll get money taken off of my benefit. :060:

he wouldn't give you permision would he?? i didn't know about my ex but i wouldn't have wanted to ask his 'permission' to do something when he has no part in his life. it's worth ringing the deed poll people as they were really helpful. it was all done in a week.

spent all day changing all my things over today. i'm working tomorrow. got two days supply in a behaviour class of 8 boys :11: i'm dreading it. start my new job monday can't wait. i can go by my new name. yipp :045: ee

No there's no way he'd give his permission. :( But i'll give them a bell and see what they say.

Best of luck for monday. :10: