Hopes and fears for next year

[Theresa]

Well its that time of year again when people start thinking of New Years resolutions.

For me my hopes are:

I've decided to ditch my usual 'I want to lose x amount of weight' that I always make as its not worked for the last 10 years why is it going to now.

Instead I have decided to just resolve to try and make healthier choices, that way at least I'll be a healthy heifer :D

Ive also decided to try and keep in touch with people more, I get distracted and lose touch with friends for ages then feel bad about it and rush round trying to see everyone again. This year if I haven't been in touch for a while I am not going to feel bad about it, they know where I am too but I will endevour not to let people slip away from me.

I want us to take our much wanted trip to Egypt before it gets too late. We've been promising ourselves for years but every year there is a reason not to do it but we really want to start our family next year too so taking the trip as our last as just the two of us would be a great way to end our free time before its all about the kids.

Fears

Hmmmm I guess Im a little worried that my endimitriosis will mean I will not be able to conceive. Thats a big fear but a bridge I can only cross when we come to it as the doctors say I'm borderline with how serious it is.

Another fear is my current workplace's future is non too secure and although my job itself is quite safe due to Tupe, I may end up being moved somewhere different with a whole heap of new people and thats making me quite nervous.

So anyone else care to share their hope and fears :030:

[Nicola]

Mine kind of come in pairs...

Hope
That my ex will agree to meet me face to face in Switzerland in January and we can try to work things out

Fear
That he will tell me it's too late so eff off and never darken his door ever again

Hope
That I happen to come into £87,500 and can therefore pay the fees to go to vet school

Fear/Reality
It ain't gonna happen so have to get over it

Hope
That I can think of another career I would like to have other than being a vet and go back to uni to do a Masters

Fear
That I can't think of anything or I do and then do a Masters and can't get a job at the end of it

Random Hopes
Similar to Theresa, to get/keep in touch with more people, I'm also not very good at it sometimes
To go to Costa Rica, although that depends on the job situation!

Random Fears
That I will be stuck in a job which pays well but which I hate for the rest of my life in order to be able to pay my mortgage
Leaving said job to do something I like but then having to sell my house and being homeless with 3 dogs

Dear god, very cheerful eh?! :11:

[Krisdt]

:061: Hopes
1) I can get a better paying job (or win the lottery :roll: )

2) I find a 3 bed afordable house with a big garden (see fear 1)

3) Karls mam sorts herself out (see fear 1)

4) Karl gets a better job or even better manages to open his own tattoo studio

5) I pass the course I wanna do and pass my driving test

Fears
1) Karls mam doesnt sort herself out and we end up with his 2 younger brothers living with us :|

2) I cant afford to do the course I want and therefore end up sticking as a glorified receptionist :061:

3) I fail my driving test

4) the wedding is a complete disaster

I think thats about it :shock:

[Michelle]

I started this year off with lots of fears for the future, financially and emotionally, so I am no longer going to worry about whats in front of me. I cant change the past but the decisions I make will shape my future into what I want it to be :)

I know what I dont want and thats to be with someone who doesn't make me happy, I spent the last four years trying to fix something that was never going to work and I see that as four years wasted. I'm going to devise a plan for next year (something I've never done before :11: ) and hopefully stick to it.

I hope everyone here has their hopes realised and that their fears come to nothing :)

edit - I have to stop smoking in the new year, or risk the wrath of my dear darling daughters :shock:

[Theresa]

I hope everyone here has their hopes realised and that their fears come to nothing :)

Me too, next year we can look back at this thread and see how much things have changed, hopefully all for the better :10:

[Alpha]

I hope I find a job that I finally enjoy, that Luke carries on being as well adjusted as he is now, that maxine finally grows up and that I get to see more of you guys.

My fears, finding another bloke that is no good for me, still not having a job I like and being more in debt than I am now.

But more than anything i hope that all the people i care about get what they need to make their lives happier what ever that turns out to be.

[Jan/Billy]

Random Fears
That I will be stuck in a job which pays well but which I hate for the rest of my life in order to be able to pay my mortgage
Leaving said job to do something I like but then having to sell my house and being homeless with 3 dogs




That's exactly me too, except the three dog bit, change mine to one

[Lovecatz]

Hopes - well I just want my family and everyone I know to be healthy and happy this year. I want my son and his colleagues to come home safely from Iraq as they will go there in Aug.

Fear - that my back pain will continue and worsen, that Nick doesn't come home.

[Natalie]

Uni, uni and errr uni :11:

[Beth]

Not so much a hope, but a plan, i want to learn to drive and get a car. :D

[Natalie]

Ohhh and by the way mother....u still need to stop smoking :| :| :twisted: :cry:

[Michelle]

:oops: I will, I will...tis on my list of things to do...right at the bottom!!

[fran]

my hope is we move house before fear we crash and burn :shock:

hope sam stays with us for ever

fear- we will have no other choice due to OH allergy

hope- that i WANT to give up smoking

fear-that however bad it is for me still enjoy it

hope-that connor doesn't mention or see his father

fear- that he will

hope-that i get an actual teaching job next sep

fear- that although it's a job i'll be stuck in support work on crappy pay for year.


just to clarify about connors father and that you don't think i'm a bitch.
the last time connor saw his father was april last year when he chose golf over his child. :shock: since then we have heard not a single word, no birthday or christmas card or contact since. we walk near where OH used to live and connor often mentions that daddy lived ther :062: he hadn't mention anything until he asked near christmas where he was :062: then for him to move house, with his new wife and baby opposite my nan :056: then him tell my SIL that he doesn't care about connor as he has a new family now :056: :061: and when conor asked OH what does a daddy do(which had me leaving the room leaving OH to explain) to connor asking so OH are you my daddy :062: :oops: :)

[Michelle]

Ooh I read your post on t'other place, about Sam, that's tough and I hope everything works out for you :13:
As for your ex, it must be tough when your son asks about his father, but I'm sure that one day he'll see him for the loser he really is and be glad he's not part of his life. Some men are just so self centred its unbelievable :shock:
Good luck with the job searching, I'm sure things will come right for you xx

[michelle123]

It must be incredibly difficult not only for Connor but for you too. Men (and Women) who leave their kids and dont bother with them when they have something new are the absolute pits of humanity :056: Your ex should spend 1/2 an hour with one of those fathers for justice guys who would probably cut of their right arm to spend time with their children.

I am sure that Connor has plenty of brill things in his life and I only hope that when his father looks for him when he is 18, which is likely to happen, that he will be thoroughly ashamed of his behaviour and Connor will have great delight in telling him what a fab mum and dad have brought him up.

What an arse

[Alpha]

It must be incredibly difficult not only for Connor but for you too. Men (and Women) who leave their kids and dont bother with them when they have something new are the absolute pits of humanity :056: Your ex should spend 1/2 an hour with one of those fathers for justice guys who would probably cut of their right arm to spend time with their children.

I am sure that Connor has plenty of brill things in his life and I only hope that when his father looks for him when he is 18, which is likely to happen, that he will be thoroughly ashamed of his behaviour and Connor will have great delight in telling him what a fab mum and dad have brought him up.

What an arse

I completely agree Maxine hasn't seen her dad, no cards at 16, 18 or 21 or any of the Xmases. and finally she realises that he is not much of a dad (well she actually thinks hes a twat). And having found my birth parents 2 years ago and loosing touch when i had all my answers.
i truly believe that children only need parents who love them, look after them and are there for them and have very little thought or love for any other sort.
he will be absolutely fine, going through it with Luke now and he is better adjusted than I am.

[fran]

i agree with all your replies. when connor asked OH what does a father do-it was quite easy for him to answer. his oldest son who's 19 is not his, his mother and OH were best friends and she was having an affiar with a married man, got pregnant so her and OH got together and he adopted him after he was born. recently son found after biological father moved back to the area to look for him :o tears and arguments later son realsied he didn't care about his biological father as it was OH who had been and always will be his father. :062: :13: :13: they're closer now then they ever have been.


(except when step son tried it on with me a few weeks ago :o but that's another story)


good that sounds like an episode of eastenders :11: :045:

[Alpha]

Oh can we have the other story as well please that at least sounds a bit more racy

[fran]

basically we were all out and me and stepson smoke so when we were going outside for a fag he get making comments about if i wasn't his stepmother :roll: then he carried on followign me round and told me what he'd want to give me for christmas :o :o :o
we get on well as there's only a four year difference but he went way way to far. all sorted now though-i told him to wise up :060:

[Theresa]

Cor blimey Fran your life is way more eventful than mine. :032:

Hope your hope come true and your fears are nothing to worry about :10:

[fran]

my life has been like an episode of eastenders since i was 18 :o

i need a rest :045: